Woman Finds Something Oddly Familiar About Her New Boyfriend, Then She Realizes The Truth

Woman Finds Something Oddly Familiar About Her New Boyfriend, Then She Realizes The Truth

Some couples have the best love stories. There are plenty of people who find their significant others on dating apps or through friends, but, occasionally, a couple meets in such an odd way it’s almost like the universe was trying to push them together. For Jessica Share, mysterious forces were definitely at play when she first met her new boyfriend — unbeknownst to her, their relationship had been 12 years in the making.

Family Planning

Before Jessica met her future boyfriend, she was in a serious relationship with her female partner, Melanie. The couple knew they wanted to have children and considered their options. “Ever since we’d met we had dreamed about having kids together. We decided on four and together we chose their names,” Jessica shared. “The next step was more difficult.”

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Potential Donors

“My girlfriend suggested her brother-in-law could help. He was receptive, but I took a gay and lesbian legal rights course offered by the college of law at my university, and quickly gave up on the idea of a known donor,” Jessica said. Even though it was 2005, the courts were often unsupportive of gay couples. 

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A Matter Of Rights

If Jessica and her partner would have used a known sperm donor, like her brother, he could’ve potentially taken their children. “Courts had been known to give them custody rights, calling their gift of sperm an act of parenting. When birth moms died, children were removed from their homes to be placed with men they barely knew,” Jessica revealed.

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Perfect Match

To avoid a possible legal nightmare, the women decided to go the sperm bank route instead. “Luckily, we discovered a sperm bank that shipped right to our home,” Jessica said. After a lengthy selection process, Jessica and her partner found an anonymous donor who seemed to be a perfect match.

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Growing Family

Poring over his sperm donation profile, the couple decided he was the one. Jessica carried their first child, whom they called Alice. Using the same donor, Jessica’s partner gave birth to another girl, Soren. For three years, the women raised their daughters and enjoyed watching Alice and Soren grow up. 

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Sudden Change

Then, out of nowhere, Jessica’s partner decided to break up with her. “There had been no conflict in our family, so I was shocked and heartbroken. She said she did not want to talk about it, and there was nothing I could do to repair our marriage,” Jessica revealed.

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Torn Apart

“I continued parenting the sisters five days a week for a few years,” Jessica said. “But when Alice was ten, my ex-partner blocked [her] on her phone, cut off all contact with her and refused to return her younger sister following a vacation.” This meant Alice and Jessica were now alone.

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Enter Aaron

While Jessica was struggling to keep herself and Alice afloat, another person was undergoing a major life change. When Aaron Long decided to become a sperm donor, it was a simple thing that motivated him: money. “‘Donors’ is the standard industry word, yet virtually all of us are paid,” Aaron wrote in an article.

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Easy Money

“Forty dollars a pop was what I received in 1994,” Aaron wrote. That’s a fair amount of money for such little effort. He never thought he’d meet any of the kids created with his sperm, in part because signed a nondisclosure agreement that barred him from seeking custody of his progeny.

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Curious Donor

Even with the NDA, Aaron was still extremely curious about his donations. He never thought much about anyone he’d helped create, but he had to know if they were out there. That’s when he turned to 23andMe. He sent in a saliva sample to the DNA website and waited impatiently for the results.

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It’s A Boy

Once Aaron’s information was uploaded to the genealogy website, he found something shocking — he had a son! Aaron tentatively sent his son, Bryce, a DM revealing who he was to see if he was interested in speaking with him. Bryce immediately responded to Aaron’s request.

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Happy To Meet

“Dad, I cannot express how excited I am to be hearing from you,” Bryce wrote. “I did join 23andMe hoping that you would have already done so and was upset to see you hadn’t. This is amazing, though, and I’m so happy.” The two struck up an immediate relationship.

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Finding Her Own Truth

This brings us back to Jessica and Alice. After a year spent mourning their old life, Alice decided she wanted to learn more about the sperm donor her mothers chose. With Jessica’s blessing, Alice sent in a saliva sample to 23andMe. For two entire months, the 11-year-old Alice waited for her results.

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Welcome To The Family

When the test came back, Alice was given two big surprises: her biological father and a half-brother were both on 23andMe. That’s right — along with Bryce, Alice was one of Aaron’s donor children! “There was no doubt,” Jessica said.

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Meet & Greet

Jessica and Aaron also began talking — ironically, Jessica was dating another guy named Aaron at the time. Eventually, Jessica and Alice flew to Seattle to meet Aaron and a few of his other children who were interested in connecting with him. By this point, Jessica was now single, and so was Aaron.

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Familiar Feeling

“The first time Jess and I found ourselves alone, we hugged at length in a way entirely inappropriate for people who had just met. Jess says I have mannerisms that remind her of both of her daughters and thus felt instantly comfortable with me,” Aaron wrote. There was an immediate chemistry neither could ignore.

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Fated Relationship

“Whether we were pawns of fate or unwitting participants in a chromosomally arranged marriage, Jess and I quickly bonded,” Aaron shared. In fact, their connection was so strong that they decided to officially become a couple! Alice was thrilled, though she still “rolled her eyes as if she had been tricked into a traditional family arrangement.”

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Non-Traditional Traditional Family

“While 23andMe is not generally considered a dating site, Jess and I are grateful to the technology that has made our backward-formed relationship possible,” Aaron wrote. Jessica is also interested in Aaron’s search for his donor kids. He’s so far discovered 10 of them.

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That’s A Lot Of Kids

Aaron estimates there may be more than 60 others he helped sire. Though all of them may not be interested in meeting Aaron, he’s had an extremely positive experience with the children he’s connected with so far. His journey to find his kids also led him to an extremely loving relationship.

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Not Always A Happy Ending

Jessica and Aaron have sperm donations to thank for making them a family, but for Pauline Chambless, her experience with fertility treatment took a shockingly dark turn. After putting her faith in a “professional” she believed she could trust, her pregnancy dreams quickly turned into a nightmare. But on that first day, she didn’t notice anything was off about the kind-faced man in the doctor’s coat.

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Infertility Struggles

Pauline and her husband struggled with infertility. After over a decade of failing to conceive, along with several taxing miscarriages, they could no longer bear the disappointment. So, in 1984, the couple walked into Dr. Kim McMorries’ office in Nacogdoches, Texas.

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A Caring, Polite, and Likable Doc

“He was the fertility doctor in our area. You couldn’t have asked for a more caring, polite, likable person and doctor,” Pauline said. She felt comfortable, confident, and safe working with Dr. McMorries (below). It was safe to say Pauline and her womb were in the best hands.

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Filling out Paperwork

It seemed that way, anyway. Just like any alternative methods for having a child, whether it be adoption, IVF, or utilizing a sperm donor, there was a ton of paperwork. Pauline and her husband filled out a questionnaire regarding their preferred donor features, including hair color, height, and ethnicity.

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Artificial Insemination

Before they knew it, the couple was paired with hand-selected, anonymous sperm donors that matched their desired characteristics. Pauline endured two-and-a-half years of artificial insemination appointments, praying and hoping a pregnancy would stick.

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A Supportive Doc

While this led to a handful of pregnancies, they all ended in miscarriages after about six weeks. “It was devastating,” Pauline stated. Over the course of the long, draining process, she got closer and closer to Dr. McMorries, as he was always there for emotional support.

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Building Trust

“Over that period of time, you build up trust for someone who appears to be doing his very best to try to help you conceive. I put my faith in him,” explained Pauline. And in 1986, a miracle happened.

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The Birth Of Jessica

A pregnancy finally stuck, and Dr. McMorries was there for Pauline throughout all nerve-racking nine months. “As soon as I got to the hospital in labor, he came and stayed by my side, through delivery until an hour after Jessica was born,” Pauline detailed.

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Open And Honest

Jessica was born beautiful and healthy, and Pauline and her husband never wanted to keep any secrets from her; therefore, Jessica grew up knowing she was conceived with help from a donor. So as she got older, the curious kid wondered who her biological daddio was.

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Feeling Special

“Mom was completely honest, and it made me feel special. I knew how hard she’d tried to have me,” Jessica told The New York Post. The ’80s, ’90s, and early 2000s passed the family by, and in 2020, 33-year-old Jessica Stavena was determined to get some answers.

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More To The Mystery

“She also shared everything she knew about my biological father — that he was a tall medical student, with red hair who loved music. I’d often wonder if one day I’d meet him,” the medical-spa manager continued. She soon realized there was more to the mystery than just her father’s identity.

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Burning Questions

Did Jessica have any half-siblings? Did they know who their father was? Was there a genetic explanation for her own rare medical issues? Her burning questions only got more intense, and she finally did something about it in January 2020.

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DNA Test

She took a DNA test, thrilled to finally have some concrete answers. When the results came back on February 23, Jessica was so ecstatic that she called 67-year-old Mama Pauline. “My heart was pounding so hard — I could hear it,” she relayed.

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Siblings Galore

“My husband had Mom on speakerphone as I clicked to see my relatives,” Jessica said. Though her results weren’t as crystal clear as Lizzo’s, it turned out Jessica had three half-siblings: two sisters and a brother. 

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Reaching Out

Jessica was practically bursting at the seams with excitement, as she immediately hopped on Facebook and sent her half siblings friend requests. It wasn’t long before she received a message from her long-lost half sister, Eve Wiley.

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Shocking Birth Story

“Hi! Do you know the details of our birth story? Was Dr. McMorries your mom’s doctor?” Eve’s message read. While Jessica was a bit puzzled, she never could’ve expected what Eve wrote next. “I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he is also our biological father.”

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Shell-Shocked

As you could imagine, Jessica was shell-shocked. What was Eve talking about? How could that be? After reading the message aloud to Pauline (who was still on speakerphone), she was silent. Pauline managed to shout “What!?”

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Fertility Fraud

“I just thought, ‘No, that’s absolutely impossible.’ I would never have agreed for my doctor to donate sperm,” Pauline explained. Shockingly, it was possible, as they were victims of “fertility fraud.”

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Illicit Inseminations

Indiana University law professor Jody Lyneé Madeira defines fertility fraud as “illicit inseminations — an intentional act that occurs when a doctor knowingly uses his own sperm to inseminate a female patient without her consent.” Eve learned about it in 2018.

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Confronting Dr. McMorries

She and her own mother had a very similar story to Pauline and Jessica’s, and her DNA test revealed some shocking information about her donor. When she realized her donor was actually Dr. McMorries, she confronted him. He wound up sending her a bizarre letter in response.

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“Improving” Conception Chances

He explained that he had purposely mixed his sperm with other donors’ in order to improve her mother’s chances of getting pregnant. Eve’s mother denied claims that Dr. McMorries got her permission to do so.

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A New Law

Eve testified to a Senate panel in April 2019, and that September, it officially became a sexual assault for a healthcare professional to use human sperm, eggs, or embryos from an unofficial donor in Texas. Without Eve’s nudging for the passage of Senate Bill 1259, it may’ve never happened.

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Filing Complaints

Jody Lyneé Madeira explained that when cases such as these emerge decades later, way after statutes of limitations have ended and documents have been destroyed, pressing charges isn’t an easy task. The professor even filed a complaint against Dr. McMorries with the Texas Medical Board, but sadly nothing came of it.

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Unforeseeable Hardships

“To give birth to your baby in front of your husband, while the doctor delivering her is the biological father? It blows my mind that he thought that was okay,” Pauline stated. “It breaks my heart that she wanted to find her biological father for so long. Now it’s just a hardship to her.”

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Showing Empathy

“She didn’t consent to this. Seeing his picture, I think, ‘How could he? Who made him God?’ I just can’t get past the anger and hurt for my mom,” Jessica said in frustration. The mother and daughter felt anger and sorrow for each other, clearly both empathetic individuals.

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Relatives Coming Out Of The Woodwork

After doing more digging, Jessica has found that she has a total of seven half siblings, and she only expects that number to grow as more people take DNA tests. Though Jessica’s DNA test led to a sinister discovery, she doesn’t regret it one bit.

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